Resources on Relationships

Jun 19

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

by I’Ching Thomas

After having been the only child for many years, my parents finally brought home a tiny bundle—my very own baby sibling. While many would celebrate the arrival of another member to the family, that special day was instead laced with disappointment for my father. I found out much later that my mother went into labor before my father got to the hospital. When he finally arrived, he took a look at the baby, uttered in dismay, “Another girl,” and walked off.

May 12

Celebrating Mothers—in China

by Narci Herr

Mothers are celebrated on many different days around the world. In every month of the year, except January and September, Mother’s Day—or Mothering Sunday in the UK—is celebrated in some country somewhere in the world. In many countries, including China, mothers are celebrated on the second Sunday of May.

Sep 27, 2016

Leaving Parents

by ChinaSource Team

In a culture that values filial piety, how do Christian couples live out the Biblical teaching that “a man shall leave his father and his mother.” Does it simply refer to geographical leaving, or does it also encompass emotional and psychological leaving? It is a common and difficult question that many Christians face. In the following translated article, originally published on the public WeChat account of Green Olive Books, the authors put forth their understanding of what this means in a Chinese context, arguing that “leaving” is a prerequisite to a happy marriage.

Jul 20, 2016

Considering the Challenges Facing Families in China

by ChinaSource Team

Young Christian families in China face pressure both from long-held traditional beliefs about family structure and from China’s contemporary materialistic society. As most of these Christians are first-generation believers, they have no frame of reference for understanding the biblical basis for family life. ChinaSource seeks to bring to light the issues facing these families so that those who come alongside Christians in China may better understand their needs.

Jul 11, 2016

Intergenerational Challenges in Christian Marriages

A Sociological Case Study of Urban Young Christians in China

by Mary Ma

Over recent generations, marriage expectations have changed. For young Christians in China, marriages are taking on new ethical norms that include challenges. Parental pressures in finding a spouse as well as in planning a wedding can create much tension. After marriage, child-bearing and rearing continue to generate challenges between the young couple and their parents. The one-child policy has exacerbated these difficulties. Christian couples are swimming against many secular tides in these areas.

Jul 1, 2016

Domestic Abuse is Coming Your Way

Are You Ready?

by Amy B.

My first glimpse into the world of domestic abuse China-side came in 2005.

Jun 21, 2016

A Christian Lawyer Discusses China’s New Domestic Violence Law

An Interview

by ChinaSource Team

In March China introduced its first-ever comprehensive domestic violence law. While celebrated as an important step toward the protection of women and children (and, occasionally men experiencing abuse) the law also raises a number of questions within the Christian community. Here lawyer and Christ-follower Cheng Pangzhi wrestles through these issues, ultimately offering hope for reconciliation of families and a call to make use of the new law in order to protect victims of violence.

Jun 10, 2016

Caring for Elderly Parents in China

Through the Eyes of an American

by Joyce Stauffer

"Faithful love in action" as Chinese adult children care for their aging parents.

Apr 26, 2016

I Will Go with You

by ChinaSource Team

The following is a translation of an excerpt from a wedding sermon preached by Pastor Wang Yi of Early Rain Reformed Church in Chengdu. In it, he exhorts the couple to remember that they are not entering into this marriage alone, that God is going before them and with them.

Mar 1, 2016

When Your Phone Becomes a Substitute for True Relationships

by ChinaSource Team

What would lead an 18-year-old boy from a top class to stab his teacher and show no remorse? In this interview transcript, originally published on the mainland blog Territory, host Wenjun speaks with Jiang Peirong, a Taiwanese psychologist and Christian, about what might have led to this shocking event.

Feb 24, 2016

Why Divorce Is on the Rise in China

by Brent Fulton

According to The Economist, China is "among the cheapest and easiest places to get a divorce." What are the factors behind China's increasing divorce rate?

Feb 3, 2016

At Home in This World

A China Adoption Story

by Mark Wickersham

At Home in This World . . . a China Adoption Story by Jean Macleod. 

Reviewed by Mark Wickersham

Jan 8, 2016

Three Names of Me

A Book Review

by Mark Wickersham

Three Names of Me by Mary Cummings.

Reviewed by Mark Wickersham. 

Dec 22, 2015

Waiting Is Better Than Trying to Jump over a Wall

by ChinaSource Team

Depending on the statistics you find, roughly 70% of the church in China is female. This leaves an obvious problem: In a nation where such a small percentage of males are Christian, where does this leave the young, unmarried Chinese woman? Aside from the obvious question of whether or not to marry an unbeliever, there are questions much more subtle and often overlooked regarding how one should see this issue in light of their walk with God. In this revealing article, published in the online magazine Territory, one millennial shares how a broken relationship led to a revelation of something much deeper that was amiss in her own life, and how things began to change once her eyes were opened.

Nov 20, 2015

Be A Better Dad Today

A Book Review

by Barney

Be a Better Dad Today: Ten Tools Every Father Needs by Gregory Slayton.

Reviewed by Barney.

Sep 15, 2015

Marriage, a Child, or Both?

by ChinaSource Team

When a child is born in China, the parents must register him/her and obtain a hukou (household registration certificate). When a couple recently went to register their child, they were told that, since they were not married, they would have to pay a 40,000 yuan “social maintenance fee.” Not having that amount of money, they launched a crowd-funding campaign to raise money to pay the fee. Their story garnered a lot of attention and prompted discussion on social media. It was even covered by The New York Times.

Jul 14, 2015

A Discussion of the Divorce Rate

by ChinaSource Team

On July 8, Global Times, an English language newspaper in China published an editorial in response to statistics recently released by the Ministry of Civil Affairs on the divorce rate in China. It was only one of numerous editorials and comment pieces examining divorce in China. The Christian Times took a look at some of the commentary, and offered their own opinion. It's an interesting look at a difficult problem that we don't often hear about, as well as a reminder to pray for God to strengthen marriages in China.